Love is selfless and not rude.

Love is not rude, it does not seek its own. 1 cor 13:14a

It is not selfish or demanding. When you love someone, you will offer, you may ask, but you will never force your way or demand anything.

Not self seeking means love is not selfish - it is selfless.  It does not focus on ‘me’.

Love seeks to give; it is giving and generous.  As stated earlier, it will never force its way or demand.  Do you think that if Jesus had put conditions on his death, demanded that we gave him love before he gave up his life, do you think any of us would have qualified?  He gave freely without asking for anything back , with only the hope that his sacrifice would touch us and change us.  That is what being selfless means.  You simply give.

Someone once told me that ‘let me love you, I won’t ask anything back, allow me to love you’ I never took that person seriously because love does not seek or ask for permission, it shows. Love is not talk, it is an exhibition.  Jesus exhibited his love by giving up everything for us.  He never came to ask for permission, he just gave.

It thinks of others first.  It puts itself in the other person’s shoes. It is considerate.

Love is not rude. Psalm 12:3-5 ‘we will triumph with our tongues....... I will now arise; I will protect them from those who malign them’

Rudeness is like a sharp sword that is plunged into a person’s heart.  It kills and destroys and messes up a person’s life. James 3:6.  Think about it for a moment.  How many people subjected to verbal abuse are happy people?

A rude word maligns people and puts them at a disadvantage. It oppresses the weak.  The psalmist says God will not be silent forever; he will rise up on behalf of the weak and protect them.  And he is a God who protects his people by drowning their enemies in the red sea!

Rudeness brings conflicts and destroys relationships.  When you do not have any control over your tongue, people gradually drift away from you, because nobody would like to be around a person who makes them feel like ‘crap’.  People naturally go where they are celebrated and not cursed or tolerated.

James 3:10 advices that the same tongue or mouth we praise God with, cursing or rude words shouldn’t be heard from it.  Remember, a sweet word will build and protect people and relationships.

Written by Aba Dadson




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